LINK: sell out
In my drafts since February 18, 2026.
My Korean guy friends call me a sell-out for dating outside the Asian race… but trust me, I’ve tried.
Most of the Korean men I’ve encountered are drawn to a specific type: petite women around 5’3″ and 90 pounds. They’re delicate, helpless, and beautiful. I’m 5’6″and pushing 131 pounds. I’ve been called “sturdy” and I can’t tell you the emotional damage that’s done to me over the years. I am also average looking, going to the Motherland has further damaged my psyche. So I am two out of the three.
I can aegyo (애교) and play cutesy but I think I look cringe doing it.
My Vietnamese and Chinese friends can get away with being domineering because of their stature, but me? I’d be labeled as a Godzilla bitch, even though that doesn’t seem fair. I’m not intimidating nor am I confrontational, in fact I dislike unnecessary drama, but I will set boundaries and stand up for myself when it’s warranted.
Dating non-Koreans (including other Asian races) are a bit easier. There’s less pressure to fit into their box and my height and weight don’t seem to be an issue with them. Americans seem to be much more laid back. But with that being said, the cultural nuances (hierarchy, honorifics, unspoken cues, mindset of the collective, language, emphasis on restraint and endurance) are completely lost and explaining it in English or Spanish is not suffice because some things cannot be directly translated. And some things cannot be taught. It just is.
And if I’m going to be frfr (for real for real/forrils), dating a pretty Korean guy only increases my insecurities. There was only one Korean guy who never made me feel that way, Big D. But we’ve known each other since our Minnesota days. We swap beauty hacks and recommend to each other the best and latest beauty trends in Korea (LED devices, snail mucin, PDRN, and etc.).
Leave a Reply to Nicholas K F MatteCancel reply