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a win is a win

What are you most proud of in your life?

Currently listening to: Tom’s Diner – Suzanne Vega, DNA

Everybody’s welcomeCome on, come on inSit yourself downThe fun it never endsLove is the drugThat makes you want to drink‘Til the morning after

I can’t say that I’m most proud of anything.  Everything I do is because I either have to or it’s my job to do it.  Doing well at work, graduating with honors, and passing examinations for certifications, these are all things that are expected from my Korean parents.  Exercising every day and being healthy.  That’s my job, it’s what I’m supposed to do.  It is what it is.

Americans love to celebrate their small wins and the challenges that they have overcome.  I love that for them.  I cheer on my friends and patients throughout their journey and the obstacles they’ve prevailed over.  A win is a win.  

But for some reason, I can’t do it for myself…I wasn’t taught that. I get more excited for other people than for myself…if that makes any sense?

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61 responses to “a win is a win”

  1. Anthony Avatar
    Anthony

    OK, great writing and it’s very weird. Coincidence I was listening to Tom’s diner right now just a few minutes ago as well by Suzanne Vega how odd… lol 😊

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    1. justrojie Avatar
      justrojie

      lol great kinda think alike

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    2. Austin jassica Avatar
      Austin jassica

      Okay that is very good thanks handsome man

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    3. Austin jassica Avatar
      Austin jassica

      Wow thank you so much how are you doing dear

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      1. justrojie Avatar
        justrojie

        I’m well how are you??

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  2. Laura Avatar
    Laura

    Felt this. You just do it. I get it. I drew a blank on this one. I like to celebrate other people too, don’t feel great all the time talking about my own.

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    1. justrojie Avatar
      justrojie

      Yeah…I struggled trying to think of something. Maybe we are the type to “just do it”

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  3. noga noga Avatar
    noga noga

    ✊🏻🌹🌹You are beautiful

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    1. justrojie Avatar
      justrojie

      Thank you so much and you’re beautiful and amazing

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  4. wendysparker72 Avatar
    wendysparker72

    It has so much to do with our upbringing how we view ourselves. I’m “proud”of you for all those things, for doing your best. Even if you feel like it’s what you should be doing anyway, you are impacting positively on others around you 😊

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    1. justrojie Avatar
      justrojie

      Thank you so much!! 🥹 that means a lot

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  5. Nicholas K F Matte Avatar
    Nicholas K F Matte

    You’re a very caring person!
    May I suggest Mike Posner —I’m not dead yet—

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    1. justrojie Avatar
      justrojie

      I’ll def check it out! And thanks so much!

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  6. Nicholas K F Matte Avatar
    Nicholas K F Matte

    This song cheers me up! 😄🤘

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  7. Sara Allwright Avatar
    Sara Allwright

    I think you’re great…your openness and humour 👍✨

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    1. justrojie Avatar
      justrojie

      Thank you, thank you!

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      1. Sara Allwright Avatar
        Sara Allwright

        Most welcome 👍

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  8. Info man Avatar
    Info man

    It’s wierd,l that I can totally relate to it , we all just forgot to celebrate small achievement . I don’t think I ever celebrated any small achievement in life .

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    1. justrojie Avatar
      justrojie

      Same!! I think I’m just more relieved that it’s over lol

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  9. Tamyra Miller Avatar
    Tamyra Miller

    Yes I do get more into other peoples successes more than my own.

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    1. justrojie Avatar
      justrojie

      Like I’m so excited about your health journey!! It’s very motivating !

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  10. sambuca22 Avatar
    sambuca22

    I guess that it is how you are raised non? If you were raised with the idea that you shouldn’t rest on your laurels then, that is the way you are. But ya. It is what it is.

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    1. justrojie Avatar
      justrojie

      It sure is…I can tell you that my rents never said I’m proud of you. More along the lines, that’s what you’re supposed to do. On to the next…

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  11. Not all who wander are lost Avatar
    Not all who wander are lost

    Tom’s Diner is a great song 🙂 I’m with you. It’s much easier for me to praise others and be proud of their accomplishments then look at my own. Sometimes I think people get too caught up in participation Awards and it makes the rest of us feel self-conscious by comparison. Celebrate your accomplishments. There is such a thing as good Pride

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    1. justrojie Avatar
      justrojie

      I love that song…and thanks for the advice!! 💜

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  12. ibarynt Avatar
    ibarynt

    Another odd question right. Ultimately ended up divulging something 🤣.

    Celebrating you Rojie for being you 🤗🤗🧡🧡

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    1. justrojie Avatar
      justrojie

      Likewise, you too should be celebrated 🎊

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  13. Golden Dust by Preksha Avatar
    Golden Dust by Preksha

    Dear, it takes courage to appreciate others that’s a beautiful trait to be proud of. 🙌🙌🙌

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    1. justrojie Avatar
      justrojie

      Thank you thank you. 🙏🏻

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  14. Lydia Avatar
    Lydia

    Love Suzanne Vega

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    1. justrojie Avatar
      justrojie

      She’s awesome

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    NeuralAYM

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    daskaonline

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  17. Presta Blogs Avatar
    Presta Blogs

    correct and mind you all those small wins amount to bigger wins later on
    https://musicnews58.wordpress.com/2024/10/22/like-it-or-not-the-kendrick-lamar-effect-on-drake-is-a-reality/

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    1. justrojie Avatar
      justrojie

      That’s so true!

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      1. Presta Blogs Avatar
        Presta Blogs

        facts

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  18. The Paltry Sum: Detroit Richards Avatar
    The Paltry Sum: Detroit Richards

    I saw Suzanne Vega in concert in Tokyo some years ago now. She was wonderful. I lived in Japan many years and have a half-Japanese son. It was so hard for me to realize that the things I was supposed to do were duty, and not meant to be mentioned. It took years to realize they were appreciated quietly. Hold on in there. You are doing so well and it is seen. Not being self-centered is a good thing! Wishing you every happiness, and a growing sense of pride in doing what you have to do!

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    1. justrojie Avatar
      justrojie

      how amazing was it to watch her in concert? that’s so cool that you lived in Japan and your son is half! i think japanese culture and korean’s are similar, especially when things are done unsaid. thank you so much for the well wishes!

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      1. The Paltry Sum: Detroit Richards Avatar
        The Paltry Sum: Detroit Richards

        She was brilliant live! It was such a powerful performance. I hope you get to see her one day! Japanese and Korean culture are not so different in a lot of ways. I do love Korean drama! I got into kdrama when I lived in Japan. Keep on shining! You got this!

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        1. justrojie Avatar
          justrojie

          Omg kdrama is my downfall…once I start I can’t stop 😂 thank you thank you!

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          1. The Paltry Sum: Detroit Richards Avatar
            The Paltry Sum: Detroit Richards

            I have just finished watching Sweet Home. Not quite kdrama, but one of the best K series I have seen!

          2. justrojie Avatar
            justrojie

            Ooh I have yet to watch this!! It’s in the queue!

          3. The Paltry Sum: Detroit Richards Avatar
            The Paltry Sum: Detroit Richards

            I think you will love Sweet Home!

          4. justrojie Avatar
            justrojie

            Thank you thank you!

  19. Billy Bonghead Avatar
    Billy Bonghead

    I understand that completely and love your humble approach to the question.

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    1. justrojie Avatar
      justrojie

      Thank you!!

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  20. satyam rastogi Avatar
    satyam rastogi

    Nice post 🌺🌺

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    1. justrojie Avatar
      justrojie

      thank you so much!

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  21. billy202484 Avatar
    billy202484

    Nice post but I feel for you its always good to take in and be proud of a accomplishment but I see how its hard when its something forced on you but you have accomplished some very good things at most try to be proud of yourself your a beautiful looking lady I wish you the very best in life!!

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    1. justrojie Avatar
      justrojie

      Thank you so much the for the kind words!! It’s greatly appreciated!

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      1. billy202484 Avatar
        billy202484

        You’re more than welcome maybe if you set a personal goal for yourself and accomplish it you could feel better about it

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        1. justrojie Avatar
          justrojie

          I think a personal goal would be to be more efficient with my time 😆 and do more…

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          1. billy202484 Avatar
            billy202484

            I wish you the very best I’ve got some personal goals I want to achieve but my past failures and poor choices are putting things on hold for now you have came farther with most all of your achievements in life than I have for sure

          2. justrojie Avatar
            justrojie

            It’s never too late!! There’s always something to do in this world

          3. billy202484 Avatar
            billy202484

            Very true and thank you for your encouragement idk where ur at in ur life spiritually but despite my troubled past I do believe in god and my goal and aim is whenever I do get out to start my own ministries called P.A.U.L.’S. Ministries (powers against ungodly living and supporters) is what P.A.U.L.’S. stands for and I want to use this to give back to the community

          4. justrojie Avatar
            justrojie

            Wow that’s cool! Best of luck to your ministries!

          5. billy202484 Avatar
            billy202484

            Thank you very much!!!

  22. real blog eu Avatar
    real blog eu

    Every day is a good day to change your life, start doing what you like, it’s your life 😉

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    1. justrojie Avatar
      justrojie

      That’s so true!

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  23. oneinchframes Avatar
    oneinchframes

    Yeah. I feel hapoy for people, they can’t feel the same way for me and neither can I. It’s so unfair, for God’s sake. Makes you feel empty inside, honestly.

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    1. justrojie Avatar
      justrojie

      It really is unfair…le sigh

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