don’t you want…

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Currently listening to: The One That Got Away – Katy Perry (Director’s Cut)

I was so into this song when it first came out and now the director’s cut, which is like an extended version has come out recently and I can’t help but have this song on an endless loop again.

Sad thing is over the years, I’ve become disenchanted with Katy Perry… but not Diego Luna. He was masterful in Narcos: Mexico.

Tryin’ to get behind the closed doors to your soul
Why’d you have to end the show
We had such a beautiful plot
There was still more story to go

A coworker asked me the other day if I had any children. I told her, “No.” And then she gave me a look of pity. I’ve seen that look many times, whenever people hear my answer.

I clarify with people that I simply do not desire to have children. Then comes the gasp, followed by, “Children are such blessings. You’ll change your mind.”

Nah, I won’t. I’ve been steadfast in this belief since junior high. I never had that maternal instinct that other girls seemed to naturally carry, and for a long time, I thought I was abnormal.

I often times tell people that I’m the baby, they become either appalled or, in the case of my exes, they just look at me with pleading eyes, silently wishing I’d change my mind and start a fam with them.

Sometimes, I wonder though… if they were more emotionally mature with endless amounts of energy and patience… and if I felt emotionally safe with that person, would it be plausible?


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51 responses to “don’t you want…”

  1. CJ Antichow Avatar
    CJ Antichow

    You do you Rojie! Forget all the rest😊

    1. justrojie Avatar

      Thank you, CJ!!

  2. Nicholas K F Matte Avatar

    She’s dating Justin, wild hey? Ya, I don’t have kids either, me I wasn’t sure WHAT to think, I was just getting sloshed after University, then the rehab shit…lol

    1. justrojie Avatar

      Yah she’s dating Trudeau. That’s wild to me. You’ve got fur babies now šŸ™‚

      1. Nicholas K F Matte Avatar

        Ah ya, purrrrfect!!! A couple pussycats, ya…..

      2. ianmdudley Avatar

        Maybe another Castro will be on the way?

        1. justrojie Avatar

          i haven’t kept up with the news but is cuba still in the dark with no energy?

          1. ianmdudley Avatar

            šŸ¤·ā€ā™‚ļø

            I dunno. Lemme go look.

            Huh. Can’t see anything…

          2. justrojie Avatar

            looks like they’re still having an energy crisis

          3. ianmdudley Avatar

            What’s that joke? What did Communists use for light before candles? Lightbulbs.

            I feel bad for the people there.

          4. justrojie Avatar

            same!

  3. SiriusSea Avatar

    New song but the “tune” you wrote about, I can relate. I was always working and there was never an end in sight. But that was my reasoning and if I had been financially secure, who knows. I believe you have to do what “feels” right to you. I’ve known more people who do not want children than do and I was raised in an all-girl school. The world is already over-populated and my siblings procreated (lol), so … I felt “off-the-hook”. That being said, child-care was my family’s industry for decades and children are awesome!!! Be patient with yourself and allow yourself to grow first before you go tackling that wild-rambunctious future ~ šŸ˜€ Great post!!

    1. justrojie Avatar

      Thank you for this!!

  4. Ajinkya Rane Avatar

    My friend Brad is the exact same about kids. He thinks they are too slow lol

    1. justrojie Avatar

      šŸ˜†

      1. Ajinkya Rane Avatar

        Honestly if he didn’t live in Toronto, I’d set you two up on a date, you guys are way too alike. Except he is an ex gangster with a passion for pets.

        1. justrojie Avatar

          šŸ˜† that’s hilarious. Idk I can’t picture Canadians being hard core gangsters, they’re so nice

          1. Ajinkya Rane Avatar

            Lmao I will tell him that hahahaa it will be funny to see him react to that šŸ˜†

          2. justrojie Avatar

            šŸ˜‚

  5. Rob McShane Avatar
    Rob McShane

    Ya do what you feel is right for you! It’s your pathway you’re walking, no- one else’s. Children change your life 180 degrees! Stay true to you

    1. justrojie Avatar

      thank you, Rob!!

  6. Dinesh Kumar Avatar

    Rojie, your post hits deep—love how the Katy Perry lyrics mirror that “what if” ache about life’s plot twists.

    1. justrojie Avatar

      thank you, Dinesh!

  7. Jeiyanni Hollings Avatar

    I totally agree about the kiddos 😭 Not everyone is meant to have the same path in life, and that’s okay. More people need to realize that.

    1. justrojie Avatar

      thank you!! i feel like i’m the odd man out sometimes feeling this way.

  8. Sambuca (āœæā— ā€æā— ) Avatar

    When dealing with children. I mean. Tough job. IDK if you got my previous message, but I know the duties of a parent. šŸ™ I had to learn the hard way with my foster sister’s kid. She didn’t raise him. I DID. Sure, she bought the supplies, but the emotional welfare of bringing up baby?? Not for the weak.

    1. justrojie Avatar

      def not for the weak… idk if that’s something i would wanna do either tbh

      1. Sambuca (āœæā— ā€æā— ) Avatar

        But you know? I liked it. It was exhausting but rewarding. You get to witness the growth and cultivation of a child/seedling. šŸ˜€

  9. ianmdudley Avatar

    I knew from childhood I wanted marriage and a family. It just took a lot longer than I expected (or wanted).

    The Missus has told me, on multiple occasions, that she wasn’t interested in having kids. At all. Till she met me. And then she “just knew.”

    So … your mileage may vary, depending on who you swipe right on. šŸ™‚

    1. justrojie Avatar

      interesting!!!

  10. Info-Man Avatar

    Kids are trouble šŸ˜µā€šŸ’« , that is why I have same thoughts for my future šŸ˜‚šŸ˜‚

    1. justrojie Avatar

      lol i can barely take care of myself

  11. olivia Avatar

    seeing this after my partner got a vasectomy šŸ™‚ we are the babies!

    1. justrojie Avatar

      most def!

  12. Hazel Avatar

    Gosh! I laughed so hard, Rojie. So, it means I’m abnormal, too.šŸ˜†šŸ˜ I’m not ready or capable of the big responsibility as a mother. I have no superpower like that. Let them be a mother, and I’ll be in singlehood and child-freešŸ™šŸ¤©

    1. justrojie Avatar

      lol i don’t have the bandwidth to be a mother either.

  13. ibarynt Avatar

    I think motherhood is over rated 🤫🤣…oh my gosh I shouldn’t be saying this out loud.

    Not every woman has to be a mom. The same goes for relationships too. It’s just as normal to be single and thrive. No one is missing out on anything.

    1. justrojie Avatar

      Lolol sometimes I wish that men were the ones who could get pregnant instead and leave us women alone šŸ˜†

      1. ibarynt Avatar

        Oh no, can you imagine the drama 🤣

        1. justrojie Avatar

          I’d pay money to watch that

  14. vic5566 Avatar

    I’m currently not willing to have kids too. Mostly becos it’s kinda tough being a human in dis world nowadays šŸ¤” wldn’t want dat for my kids, no no šŸ™‚ā€ā†”ļø

    1. justrojie Avatar

      The world is a dumpster fire frfr

  15. Violet Lentz Avatar

    Just wait till your 65 and telling people you don’t have any kids- they look at you like- well then who do you think is going to take care of you when your old and senile?

    1. justrojie Avatar

      Robots. šŸ˜† if I had kids idk if I’d wanna burden them with my ailments

  16. Jesse Pallante Avatar

    It is all right to not want children! You do what you feel is necessary. Don’t let other people tell you what to do. If you don’t want children, then stick by that. It is fine. You be you, you are awesome!

    1. justrojie Avatar

      Thank you, Jesse!!

  17. April Avatar

    ohhh! Was this the thing you mentioned when I spoke of the neighborhood incident in the questionnaire…etc

    1. justrojie Avatar

      yass!!

      1. April Avatar

        Oh gosh! People around could be so intrusive…like can’t stop after hearing no and all…

        1. justrojie Avatar

          seriously!! ughhh~~ idk why pple gotta push their ideals on others. just let pple live their lives

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