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i want something else

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Currently listening to: Semi-Charmed Life – Third Eye Blind

I believe in the sand beneath my toes
The beach gives a feeling, an earthy feeling
I believe in the faith that grows
And the four right chords can make me cry
When I’m with you, I feel like I could die
And that would be alright, alright

How has failure ever protected you from a path that wasn’t yours?

Prompt created by yours truly. 
Feel free to use any prompts for April 2026 that I post and/or tag me.
I’d love to read your responses.

Ugh. When I look back at the biggest failures of my life, they are all associated with my exes. I’d pour everything into them and still… I lost. I would blame myself for a long time, replaying conversations and scenarios in an endless loop, thinking about what I could have done or said differently, picking apart moments that have already passed. I’d vow that I’d do better next time and when that next time would come, I’d see the relationship dissolving again but with someone else.

But over the years, I’ve come to reframe things, that those relationships failed because they weren’t going to take me where I needed to go in life and that I want something else…

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30 responses to “i want something else”

  1. Rob McShane Avatar
    Rob McShane

    Fascinating prompt- as a narcissist I was always…ALWAYS… right. Consequently, I never ‘failed’.
    When I look back, if there was a chance of failure, or if something didn’t work, I would either manipulate things that it couldn’t have been my fault, or I would move away from the situation before it ‘failed’.
    Now I see that ducking instead of facing was, in itself, a failure. A missed opportunity to learn, grow and, as you say, find another path. Back then it wasn’t as I had chosen to make the move- so a good decision!🫣.
    At the most (or least!), if I experienced a failure I could not escape or explain away, I would say that nothing is a mistake, everything is an opportunity to learn from. So, I would always ‘look good’ (in my eyes) but realise now how I was so busy protecting myself that I learnt nothing. Plus, I left damage and chaos behind me.
    And so we learn….

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    1. justrojie Avatar
      justrojie

      And so we learn… failing has also humbled me and made me value the process in a way, even though go I would have liked for things to end on a positive note

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      1. Rob McShane Avatar
        Rob McShane

        I suppose failure can often be an inability to achieve an expected outcome, yes? So the question can then be asked, was the expectation possible/real considering all the factors that may not have been seen or known about?

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        1. justrojie Avatar
          justrojie

          There’s that too. But also realizing that if I fail sometimes it’s not all bad either. I guess there’s that saying when a door closes, a window opens

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          1. Rob McShane Avatar
            Rob McShane

            So true…

  2. Iris@poetsmith Avatar
    Iris@poetsmith

    Yes, sometimes one has to move on… there are other opportunities for better relationsips.

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    1. justrojie Avatar
      justrojie

      I hope so!!

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      1. Iris@poetsmith Avatar
        Iris@poetsmith

        Righto! 😊

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  3. Info-Man Avatar
    Info-Man

    Some relations are just not meant to be , because they don’t let us grow , it’s good to leave such relations.

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    1. justrojie Avatar
      justrojie

      I think so too. Every decision I’ve made, brought me where I am today.

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  4. utahan15 Avatar
    utahan15

    you and jesus
    are joy
    anyone
    else is just
    as john denver
    sang it
    along fa the ride

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    1. justrojie Avatar
      justrojie

      lol a shit show ride

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      1. utahan15 Avatar
        utahan15

        this is a life. for better or worse.

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  5. Violet Lentz Avatar
    Violet Lentz

    You just never know what you have really been saving yourself for. Don’t think failures- think stepping stones….

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    1. justrojie Avatar
      justrojie

      That’s a good way of thinking! I like it

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  6. Michael Williams Avatar
    Michael Williams

    this resonates with me alot.

    i believe in synchronicity and things having a larger sense of what they are (I think we talked about this before in the comments). there’s a part of me that has concluded that if a path is just too hard, there’s a reason why and that reason is trying to tell you to get off the path. but when I think about it, what about the concept of perseverance and not quitting. then I concluded that perseverance and having that won’t quit attitude serves circumstances optimally where you’re not putting effort towards A PERSON. if instead you put in that perseverance in a goal, you’ll have better results.

    i have a really good friend that I’ve talked to regarding relationships and I’ve taken alot from her. she told me that she doesn’t fight for anybody and hearing her say that all those years ago ushered in one of the most defining moments of clarity in my life.

    i think that we we are all experiencing has more to do with the overall state of the dating market as much as it has to do with our variability. but as you can imagine, that is a whole different can of worms to open. Mike

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    1. justrojie Avatar
      justrojie

      So many cans of worms fasho. And yes sometimes things are hard but maybe it’s all worth it in the end. I just gotta keep trying

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  7. Edward Ortiz Avatar
    Edward Ortiz

    Great song, and my goodness, they played it a lot back in the day.

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    1. justrojie Avatar
      justrojie

      yasss~~

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  8. Nicholas K F Matte Avatar
    Nicholas K F Matte

    YOU???? Worry about THIS?? My god you’re a Goddess!!!

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    1. justrojie Avatar
      justrojie

      lol you’re funny

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  9. Hazel Avatar
    Hazel

    What matter is you don’t lost yourself!

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    1. justrojie Avatar
      justrojie

      that too!

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  10. ianmdudley Avatar
    ianmdudley

    I think the opposite is true for me. My failures and failings, when I recognize them, tend to drive me onto the path I should have taken to begin with.

    Shame at an action not taken or an act that ought to have been avoided has led me to a determination not to repeat the mistake.

    It leaves a mark when you realize you didn’t live up to your own standards, when you see yourself as a not-so-bright beacon. I hope I’ve learned from my mistakes, and I like to think I’ll step up next time if I ever face the same situation again.

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    1. justrojie Avatar
      justrojie

      that’s a thing that i had to realize that i’m not perfect and i’m gonna make a lot of mistakes, unfortunately, so i might as well try to enjoy the journey/process or make the most of it.

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  11. ibarynt Avatar
    ibarynt

    Doesn’t sound like failures, just detours and clearly not for you.

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    1. justrojie Avatar
      justrojie

      for some reason i love taking the scenic route instead of a direct route lol

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      1. ibarynt Avatar
        ibarynt

        Those scenic routes are tempting 😋

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  12. Sambuca (✿◠‿◠) Avatar
    Sambuca (✿◠‿◠)

    If there’s anything I’ve learned from past relationships? Dating your bffs leftovers is just wrong in so many ways. Also, no offence to you lovely 😊, but Gemini makes horrible lovers. Especially with my lunar Sagittarius? I taught that cheating sob a lesson in pain. 😂

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    1. justrojie Avatar
      justrojie

      Lolol Geminis are hard lovers, that’s for sure. We always get bored and don’t like being told what to do

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