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the marriage gap

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Sitting in my drafts since December 20, 2025.

I was watching television a while back when I was at Palm Springs and the show was talking about how marriage was now considered a republican thing?

The stigma of needing to get married seems to be collapsing the fastest where democrats dominate like along the coastal cities, college towns, and where there are younger cohorts. I know a lot of my friends either live with their partners, live alone, or live with family.

IDK, is this saying that people are happier when they’re married or not? Maybe back in the 80’s it was a thing but it doesn’t seem to be the case these days… but then again the sample size is rather small.

While republicans have a higher marriage rate, they also have a slightly higher divorce rate. That’s to be expected though if you have a bigger denominator. They are also more likely to remarry after their divorce.

So, I’m wondering why people even have to get married? Aside from it being considered “living in sin”, which I don’t think it’s a fair statement to say since people sin on a daily basis…

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44 responses to “the marriage gap”

  1. Michael Williams Avatar
    Michael Williams

    great post Rojie! you know…I could comment a heck of a lot on this observation but the thing is, it intersects so many social lines that to pinpoint a defining factor (or factors) would be debatable depending on who you talk to. it’s one of those things where time tells the truth and the truth often gets beat up in the crossfire of arguments.
    there are many things I find fault in both sides and levels of the arguments so I guess in the end, I’m just left to shrug it off and make my own assessment as I go along! 😐😐😐 Mike

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    1. justrojie Avatar
      justrojie

      thanks, Mike!! i guess time will tell…

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  2. utahan15 Avatar
    utahan15

    only fifty percent survive
    yet without marriage sin abounds sexually oh oh

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    1. justrojie Avatar
      justrojie

      lol yuuup!!

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  3. Jeiyanni Avatar
    Jeiyanni

    I agree with your last statement. The “living in sin” portion always gets me haha

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    1. justrojie Avatar
      justrojie

      hehehe can’t escape that one

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  4. CJ Antichow Avatar
    CJ Antichow

    Getting married is sooo foolish, in my eyes. I hope none of my kids get married. Most people (women) want to get married mainly to plan and have an elaborate wedding, which is a total waste of money. Spend your time and energy actually cohabiting with this person for the rest of your life and skip the wedding!

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    1. justrojie Avatar
      justrojie

      that sounds like a better idea. the thought of dumping an insane amount of $$ on a wedding seems wild to me

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      1. M. Avatar
        M.

        Ours was as cheap as possible, heck my wife even got her dress for $5 at an auction, had it tailored for $15

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        1. justrojie Avatar
          justrojie

          holy shit that’s fucking amazing!

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  5. Ajinkya Rane Avatar
    Ajinkya Rane

    After covid people changed priorities and want to enjoy life before settling down and having a family. At least in the younger demographics. I hate to say this but women do have a biological clock and most do want children but the events of the last decade and the advancements in ivf have led them to choose not getting into a serious relationship and are able to push the limits of fertility. Men on the other hand have faced many legal issues in the past such as biased divorce settlements, not being granted custody of children and sometimes having to pay for child support for children that aren’t even their own. So settling down young seems like something that doesn’t appeal to both sexes. While women do mature earlier in age, men start earning better in later ages and frankly age better. So my theory is that there are going to be a lot of cases where there is going to be an increase in single mothers with sugar daddies. Also vice versa with milfs parading cougar cubs. Its the way the world is going. Who knows how it might go?

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    1. justrojie Avatar
      justrojie

      i guess we’ll see what happens in the future!

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      1. Ajinkya Rane Avatar
        Ajinkya Rane

        The future is savage and exciting.

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        1. justrojie Avatar
          justrojie

          it sure is!

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  6. Jake Avatar
    Jake

    Im betting there is a religious variable in the marriage rate.

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    1. justrojie Avatar
      justrojie

      true true!

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  7. ianmdudley Avatar
    ianmdudley

    For the supposed party of marriage equality, you’d think Dems would be more happy in marriage.

    A more interesting breakdown would be how many people think a committed, lifetime relationship makes them happier. I mean, how many people who aren’t into marriage are looking for a series of short-term bang fests?

    Better track age with that query too…

    And track how people view marriage as different from long-term partners. Maybe we’re all closer to agreement than we realize, but are getting mixed up on definitions?

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    1. justrojie Avatar
      justrojie

      as long as the person is happy with whoever they want to be, tracks for me

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  8. Nicholas K F Matte Avatar
    Nicholas K F Matte

    People can and will, we ALL think differently, I think, interesting about that party!

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    1. justrojie Avatar
      justrojie

      indeed, it’s interesting to me!

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  9. Nicholas K F Matte Avatar
    Nicholas K F Matte

    Ya ya, probably willnot, I have a pocket pussy

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    1. justrojie Avatar
      justrojie

      lol

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  10. Nicholas K F Matte Avatar
    Nicholas K F Matte

    Feels good!!😁

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  11. Nicholas K F Matte Avatar
    Nicholas K F Matte

    Many us get along great without the vows hey?

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    1. justrojie Avatar
      justrojie

      true true, i think CJ is proof of that

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      1. Nicholas K F Matte Avatar
        Nicholas K F Matte

        Oh cool! Who’s that?

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        1. justrojie Avatar
          justrojie

          https://bloomplantednorth.blog/

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          1. Nicholas K F Matte Avatar
            Nicholas K F Matte

            Rojie? I enjoyed that read tremendously!!! Subscribed!!!

  12. M. Avatar
    M.

    I suppose for me it was a traditional thing to do, am I Republican ? No Am I conservative ? No By tradiition do I follow an old school way that my wife is subservient ? No. But I married a liberal Lutheran Pastors daughter who is an avid church goer, which I am not. We grew up very differently but Idk I an content being united in God.

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    1. justrojie Avatar
      justrojie

      oh wow this is interesting! but it seems like you guys make it work

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      1. M. Avatar
        M.

        Been working for 13 years come May 4th, 16 years a couple come Oct 2. Yeah despite wildly different upbringings and a 12 year age gap we compliment each other in many different ways, honestly I think for her I was the first “nice guy” I treat women with respect and consider them my equal.

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        1. justrojie Avatar
          justrojie

          Aww I’m so happy for you both!

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  13. Hazel Avatar
    Hazel

    Your question made me laugh. It’s up to us.🤩 Married or not , we can be happy. And some people are practical. They want just live in rather than married because it’s easy to remarry.

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  14. Jesse Pallante Avatar
    Jesse Pallante

    You are right they sin anyways, so why does anyone get married, just to divorce, unless they are meant to be with each other.

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    1. justrojie Avatar
      justrojie

      I guess it’s tradition? Can’t really say…

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  15. Don Massenzio Avatar
    Don Massenzio

    I’ve been married for 40 years, which seems like quite an achievement these days. It has gone by incredibly fast and definitely had ups and downs. It’s interesting that recent studies found that men live longer if they’re married, but women live longer if they’re single.

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    1. justrojie Avatar
      justrojie

      lol yes… it probably has to do with women being nurturers and are so busy nurturing their spouses that they forget about themselves

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    2. justrojie Avatar
      justrojie

      also congrats on the 40 years of being married!! that def is an achievement

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  16. Violet Lentz Avatar
    Violet Lentz

    The whole marriage thing is based in religion’s insistence that women remain property. So it makes sense that the ones that find their identity in religion will also be the ones that think strictly enforced monogamy is a natural state.

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    1. justrojie Avatar
      justrojie

      i concur!

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  17. Nemo Avatar
    Nemo

    The funny thing about statistics is that, like anything, you can make them say what you want through interpretation. Republicans don’t own diddly squat, and neither do Democrats. Trending? Sure. But both parties have their image to keep, and that image is a tepid and lukewarm pageant play.

    Marriage is a fine thing, but Americanism has made it superficial. I never wanted a big deal. I was fine to elope. My wife wanted a small gathering, because at the time her need to impress and include family was stronger. Now we are church-goers, but not necessarily religious, and our appreciation of church weddings have increased. Not because we want big, or flashy, but because we see the value of the symbolic community engagement. If you know the faces in the pews, have shared trial, error and triumph with these people – it tracks they would be involved in a vow you (I would hope) mean to keep until death.

    That of course implies “traditional” “values” which not all have. Not even Republicans, who are often as traditional these days as my left foot. But for many, marriage is merely security – knowing/hoping that your partner is going to be there day after day and you don’t have to wake up alone. Which is fine too.

    I dunno.

    Life is hard, and historically, marriage was a means to (ideally) take the sting out. That’s my flawed take, as biased as any statistic.

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    1. justrojie Avatar
      justrojie

      with the population dwindling, i can see how marriages would be on the decline as well. i guess time will tell with what happens with the sacred institution of marriage.

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      1. Nemo Avatar
        Nemo

        I think, and this is just me, that as people with transcendent desires or aspirational familial goals begin to see how badly off mainstream culture is – the Institution will be strengthened in the minority. I suspect that people as a whole are questioning marriage because of the bad handling of it in the media, but socially too – when the media portrays marriage as a joke it’s easy to see why our parent generation would, given how hard their parent generation had to scrabble. But. That’s probably enough sociology from me, I’ve a bit of yoga to do before church.

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  18. ibarynt Avatar
    ibarynt

    There are always two sides to a story.

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