sorry, but not sorry

LINK: sorry, but not sorry

Currently listening to: Apologize – Timbaland feat. OneRepublic

I’m holding on your rope, got me ten feet off the ground
And I’m hearing what you say, but I just can’t make a sound
You tell me that you need me then you go and cut me down, but wait
You tell me that you’re sorry, didn’t think I’d turn around, and say (that)

“It’s too late to apologize (it’s too late).”
I said, “It’s too late to apologize (it’s too late).”

How do you respond to conflict?

Yes, that’s my RBF. I was trying on the new sunglasses I ordered online cause I broke my other pair, which I’m still salty about.

My colleagues say that I’m very nice. I am nice. But I want to clarify that this is by California standards. By Minnesota standards, I’m probably not that nice but I am cordial.

When it comes to conflict, I don’t like it at all. I tend to go the avoidant route and ignore the comment or situation. If that’s not an option, I’ll change the subject or leave the chat/ghost the person. Sometimes, I just don’t have the bandwidth… plus confronting people makes me uncomfortable.

If it is my bad, I can admit it. I’ll take the L . My exes have seen all sides of this, me shutting down, disappearing for days, and owning up to my shortcomings.

But if I’m feeling particularly sassy, a little spicy, or I’ve reached my threshold of dumbassery for the day, I will push back. I’ll make a counter statement and then drop the mic. I’m told that I pull things out of left field and blindsight people when I do that. I’ll put on my big girl pants when needed and sit there and debate, go back and forth, and hold my ground. I’m usually pretty succinct but if I am passionate about a topic, I can get extremely verbose and volley with the person till the cows come home.

So, how do you deal with conflict?


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31 responses to “sorry, but not sorry”

  1. Jesse Pallante Avatar

    Those sunglasses look awesome on you. You wear them well. Bad ass Rojie. I deal with conflict, if i know im right about something I won’t back down, but usually I avoid it. Because in tucson you could be shot for arguing with people. So, I don’t want another bullet in my head. So, I try to not get into heated conversations with people. I will usually ignore situations that I can ignore.

    1. justrojie Avatar

      yeah that is so true. people are unhinged these days

  2. Violet Lentz Avatar

    I like the line-“I am not opening a conversation- I am making a statement-“

  3. utahan15 Avatar

    i m a scorpian baby
    loud and italian too
    in ya face
    but i retreat too
    give us a kiss
    and a shake of your body
    ty

    1. justrojie Avatar
  4. myallaboutyou Avatar

    You are so pretty.

    1. justrojie Avatar

      thank you so much, friend!

  5. ianmdudley Avatar

    I wouldn’t start any fights with that face! 😉

    Not big on conflict, either. I try to avoid upsetting people.

    Except when I’m in the car and another driver does something stupid / dangerous. Then it’s yelling and screaming and an endless flow of profanity.

    With the windows up.

    I don’t want to start a fight…

    1. justrojie Avatar

      road rage is so prevalent now. i also rage in the car. alone. with the windows rolled up.

      1. ianmdudley Avatar

        I try not to get mad in the car because one of these days, my windows being up won’t protect me from a crazy. But it’s so hard to stay calm when people swerve into your lane or tailgate or go 10 mph below the speed limit.

        In the leftmost lane.

        There’s a book called Zen Driving I’ve started reading twice, but I’ve yet to finish it.

        1. justrojie Avatar

          people just suck, i can’t wait till i can teleport into places instead of dealing with traffic

          1. ianmdudley Avatar

            You need to watch the remake of The Fly before you use any teleporters…

          2. justrojie Avatar

            There’s a remake?? I remember seeing parts of the one with ieff goldblum

          3. ianmdudley Avatar

            Um … well, actually … the Jeff Goldblum movie IS the remake.

            Original is Vincent Price. It’s good too, but not quite the same level of teleport body horror in the original.

          4. justrojie Avatar

            oh oops, my bad lol. jeff goldblum looked hella creepy when he was transforming into a fly. i literally didn’t eat that whole day when i saw parts of it when my dad was watching it.

          5. ianmdudley Avatar

            For a remake, it’s surprisingly good.

            And disgusting at the same time…

  6. Jake Pickard Avatar

    I tell the person straight out what the issue is. Most people don’t like directness, the flip-side is is i take responsibility for my actions, I am open to criticism if/when im an asshole and i dont automatically react. I think about it first (difficult skill i have not mastered yet).

    1. justrojie Avatar

      being direct is also a skillset because i think you have to be okay with people’s reactions and that’s not something i’m comfortable with either lol

  7. Jake Pickard Avatar

    Also you are very attractive. 🎤 drop.

    1. justrojie Avatar

      hah, thanks, Jake

  8. Nicholas K F Matte Avatar

    You look GOOD!!!
    Conflict, well….me, at my age, dosent really happen much but when it does, me and the other MUST work it out. All kinds of situations though I have, I’ll admit, “you must think about #1 sometimes” is a quote I heard once, and it comes into play a bit for me in this regard in certain instances now. Yup! Nico

    1. justrojie Avatar

      what’s #1?? thank you, Nico!

  9. Nicholas K F Matte Avatar

    Ahhhhh😄, the elder person meant >oneself< when he spoke to me Ro.

  10. ibarynt Avatar

    Eyyy, easy on the eyes for sure 😉

    1. justrojie Avatar

      Hehehe thank you, Iba!!

  11. Zenith Avatar

    my friend said I have rbf cuz before he knew me he thought I would eat someone alive (exaggerating but still true I look like a menace in a poker face)

    1. justrojie Avatar

      How come I find that hard to believe 😆

      1. Zenith Avatar

        it’s true tho i know it myself cuz another friend snapped a pic of my resting face and i look like she murdered my bloodline

        1. justrojie Avatar

          lolol oh geez!

  12. Info-Man Avatar

    I try to calm down my anger when I am out but I fail most of times , people these days are so dumb and I just can’t, I come home and tell every damn shit to my younger sister and she laughs and give her review until it all ends .

    1. justrojie Avatar

      i’m glad you can download to your sister! that’s pretty helpful i think

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