LINK: EQ
Currently listening to: When the Lights Go Out – Five
Baby, when the lights go out
Every single word could not express
The love and tenderness
I’ll show you what it’s all about
Babe, I swear you will succumb to me
So baby come to me
When the lights go out!
How emotionally intelligent are you?
Prompt snagged from: NY Times
I took this EQ quiz from Truity.

The Intuitive
I notice nonverbal cues and intuitively “read the room” to determine how others are feeling.
What is Emotional Intelligence?
Emotional Intelligence (EQ) is your ability to understand and manage your emotions and connect with others in a healthy and positive way. EQ describes a broad range of skills and capabilities, from your ability to calm yourself down when you’re upset to your ability to read the facial expressions of others. Our research has shown that Emotional Intelligence is made up of five unique factors:
- Self-Awareness: The ability to understand how you feel and why.
- Other Awareness: The ability to understand the feelings of others.
- Emotional Control: The ability to control your emotions and behaviors.
- Empathy: The ability to understand and relate to the feelings of others.
- Wellbeing: The ability to care for your physical and emotional health.
By understanding your strengths and weaknesses in these areas, you can better navigate your relationships, career and life. Below, you will see how you scored in each of the five areas.

Self-Awareness
Self-awareness is measured as the ability to effectively recognize and identify one’s own emotional experiences. People who score higher on this construct are more likely to be highly attuned to their emotions, exhibiting a keen sense of what they are feeling at any given moment. They are also more likely to be reflective, frequently pondering the reasons behind their emotional reactions. In contrast, those who score lower on this construct may be more likely to get caught up in the heat of the moment, potentially leading to impulsive or reactive social behavior.
Other Awareness
Other awareness is measured as the ability to effectively perceive and understand the emotions of others. People who score higher on this construct are more likely to be highly attuned to nonverbal cues, such as body language and facial expressions, which can provide valuable information about others’ emotional states. They are also more likely to be skilled at interpreting these cues and making accurate inferences about the emotions that others are experiencing, even when those emotions are not explicitly expressed. In contrast, those who score lower on this construct may struggle to accurately interpret nonverbal cues, potentially leading to misunderstandings or missed opportunities for social connection.
I didn’t pay $29 to get the rest of the information, but I found the description for the other categories from Google.
Emotional Control
Emotional control refers to the ability to manage one’s own emotions effectively, including regulating negative emotions and channeling positive emotions to achieve goals. This involves managing reactions to situations and taking responsibility for one’s behavior. In contrast, those who score lower on this react impulsively or inappropriately to situations, struggling to control negative emotions like anger or frustration.
Empathy
Empathy is the capacity to understand and share the feelings of another person. It’s about being able to put oneself in another person’s shoes and comprehend their emotional state, which is crucial for building strong relationships and navigating social interactions. In contrast, those who score lower on this have difficulty understanding or relating to the emotions of others, potentially leading to strained relationships and misunderstandings.
Well-being
Well-being is positively impacted by these emotional intelligence skills. By developing self-awareness, emotional control, and empathy, individuals can navigate challenging situations more effectively, build stronger relationships, and experience greater overall well-being.
I am willing to bet that Nico and Hazel scored higher than me in the empathy department.
I would like to think that I am kind but empathy is different. I used to be a really big empath but then it became a problem when I was trying to draw boundaries later so I find myself holding back. I don’t know if that’s a good thing or a bad thing but that’s just how I’m built.
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