mirror mirror on the wall

Currently listening to: Despacito – Luis Fonsi, Daddy Yankee, feat. Justin Bieber

Despacito (slowly)
Quiero respirar tu cuello despacito (I want to smell your neck slowly)
Deja que te diga cosas al oído (let me whisper things in your ear)
Para que te acuerdes si no estás conmigo (so that you’ll remember if you’re not with me)
Despacito (slowly)
Quiero desnudarte a besos despacito (I want to undress you with my kisses, slowly)
Firmo en las paredes de tu laberinto (I sign the walls of your labyrinth)
Y hacer de tu cuerpo todo un manuscrito (and make your whole body a manuscript)

What do you think is the key to lasting romantic relationships?

Prompt snagged from: TCMC

This is something that I’ve asked a psychiatrist, psychotherapist, and psychiatric nurse practitioner who have all been in long-term relationships.

Their responses:

One thing they all agreed on was how much scent and physical chemistry matter—like, literally how your body responds to the other person. One of them mentioned pheromones and how our brains pick up on someone’s natural scent. You either feel drawn to it or you don’t. 

But the part that stuck with me the most? Someone said, “Keep treating your partner like they’re your boyfriend or girlfriend.” That hit. It’s so easy to fall into routines—managing errands, sharing space, doing the day-to-day. But that spark fades fast when things become stagnant—if you stop flirting, stop being curious, stop putting in effort. A relationship gets dull when both people assume the other will always be there, no matter how disconnected things feel.


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15 responses to “mirror mirror on the wall”

  1. Hazel Avatar

    Still saying I love you despite living on the same roof. I think it matters.

    1. justrojie Avatar

      True true!

  2. Jesse Pallante Avatar

    True you need to put in effort and be committed to each other or it will never work. Communication is key.

    1. justrojie Avatar

      📠 no printer

  3. Violet Lentz Avatar

    So true. I absolutely believe attraction is chemical, but I have no idea how to take it beyond that.

    1. justrojie Avatar

      Chemical and physical to my demise 😆

  4. Ajinkya Rane Avatar

    While Despacito is a good song it reminds me very much of that guy on the subway in Toronto. He consistently played that song on his accordion in order to get viral on YouTube. That I tell you is probably the last thing you want to hear after a long day at work. Once a nurse got so pissed at him she nearly slapped him lol.

    Regardless if I ever want to meet a woman again in another lifetime I would have to be able to trust her or rely on her completely. Interesting how you mention scent and I do agree that scent has to be appealing but then I also think sounds matter because if she sounds like an accordion I am not dating her lol. Of course there has to be more effort than Despacito.

    1. justrojie Avatar

      😆 I remember having this song on repeat when it first came out. For me it’s physical and chemical attraction, at least that’s what draws me in

      1. Ajinkya Rane Avatar

        Its a sexy song though ngl that chick is fine!

        1. justrojie Avatar

          Haha yeah she’s gorg

  5. ibarynt Avatar

    This is a loaded question.
    My husband quietly loving with small but valuable gestures.

    1. justrojie Avatar

      That is def a plus for all ladies!

      1. ibarynt Avatar

        It is. I’m the nut 🤣

  6. Maddie Cochere Avatar

    More good advice!

    I met someone who I knew … I just knew … I was supposed to meet. We never had the timing right, and I told him, “If we were supposed to meet and be together, we f’d it up, so we’ll try again in the next life.” I moved on. 🙂

    1. justrojie Avatar

      Le sigh….

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