estrangement

Tell us about a time when you felt out of place

Since my dad passed away, I feel like the third wheel whenever I’m with my brother and mom.

My dad was everything to me.  He’s the one who would put me in girly dresses, curl my hair, and even cut my hair.  He was the one who would tell me bedtime stories and made me laugh.  My mom would complain that I had my dad wrapped around my pinky…and maybe I did.  Even though he was strict and had high expectations, he had a soft spot for me.   

He’s the one who helped me go to prom that my mom was dead set against.  He drove us to all of our piano competitions and concerts.  Whenever I needed money, he would slip me a bill or two and make me promise that I wouldn’t tell my mom.  He helped me move into my dormitories, apartments, and house. I thought he was the smartest person I ever knew.  He taught me about finances, mathematics, and science.  I learned how to change tires, jump a car battery, check the tire pressure, coolant, oil, and washer fluid.  He pushed me to persevere, to stay the course, and to never stop dreaming.  

I was daddy’s little girl.  I cherished him.


Discover more from just rojie

Subscribe to get the latest posts sent to your email.

14 responses to “estrangement”

  1. noga noga Avatar

    💞🥰You miss him so much, I pray for him, good morning, my love

    1. justrojie Avatar

      Good morning and thank you

      1. noga noga Avatar

        🥰💞

  2. wint3rpear Avatar

    Rojie, I’m that way too. I am closer to my dad than my mother. 🙂

    1. justrojie Avatar

      I think it’s easier with dads than moms 💜

  3. oneinchframes Avatar

    Aww man, may God be with you. That must hit. I don’t know what I’d do without mine, either. It’s okay, Roj. You’ll be okay. Take care!

  4. Sara Allwright Avatar

    Awww…🥰 ✨🌻

  5. ibarynt Avatar

    I’m sure he carries you in his heart. Life lessons + skills… you are blessed having a Dad like yours 🤗🤗

    1. justrojie Avatar

      Hope so…I was lucky to be his daughter

  6. oneinchframes Avatar

    You’re gonna be okay. I can’t imagine what life would be like for me without my dad. Take care, Roj. There’s a whole community online from all over the world that loves you and is willing to listen to you.

    1. justrojie Avatar

      Thanks so much for your words 💜

  7. Justin Avatar

    I’m so sorry for your loss. I was really close to my mother, I lost her in 2013. Losing a parent is difficult, especially if you’re very close to them. I’m sorry that your mom and your brother don’t make you feel very welcome. That’s not very considerate. My family is kind of the same way, they tend to cherish moments with my sister more than me. It’s primarily because my family comes to prioritize people with children. They think that having children makes you more important. 🤷‍♂️

    1. justrojie Avatar

      I’m in the same boat as well since he has children too. It’s such an odd feeling that parents would do that but they’re human too I suppose. Sorry you’re experiencing a similar scenario :(. Hope all is well with you. 💜💜

  8. Adarsh G Avatar

    Awesome 👍

Leave a Reply to justrojieCancel reply