Being Korean is one of the hardest things I go through on a daily basis. Don’t get me wrong, I love being Korean. The food, k-dramas, music, skincare, and fashion.
I don’t like the competition, comparison, toxicity, and all the unspoken rules. Korea has one of the highest suicide rates in the world and Koreans consume the most alcohol (more than Russians)…and there’s a reason. It’s fucking stressful. Being my best in all realms is impossible but for the longest time, I sincerely tried. I thought if I was perfect, no one could complain about anything and then I could finally have some peace. But all it did was give me stomach pains and get hospitalized.
My parents used to compare me to others, especially at church. I hated it. “Did you know that Esther is engaged to a millionaire? Hanna is on a diet, she weighs 42 kilos. Grace bought her parents a new Mercedes. Christine was accepted into medical school at Harvard.” It’s like being in a reality show, “Keeping up with the Kim’s”. Fuck me…and fuck that.
I just want to be me and not give a damn about what other’s think. This is one thing I do love about being an American. The value of individuality and acceptance of being different.
I was wondering for those who live around the world face if they experience the same type of situation?
being korean
Being Korean is one of the hardest things I go through on a daily basis. Don’t get me wrong, I love being Korean. The food, k-dramas, music, skincare, and fashion.
I don’t like the competition, comparison, toxicity, and all the unspoken rules. Korea has one of the highest suicide rates in the world and Koreans consume the most alcohol (more than Russians)…and there’s a reason. It’s fucking stressful. Being my best in all realms is impossible but for the longest time, I sincerely tried. I thought if I was perfect, no one could complain about anything and then I could finally have some peace. But all it did was give me stomach pains and get hospitalized.
My parents used to compare me to others, especially at church. I hated it. “Did you know that Esther is engaged to a millionaire? Hanna is on a diet, she weighs 42 kilos. Grace bought her parents a new Mercedes. Christine was accepted into medical school at Harvard.” It’s like being in a reality show, “Keeping up with the Kim’s”. Fuck me…and fuck that.
I just want to be me and not give a damn about what other’s think. This is one thing I do love about being an American. The value of individuality and acceptance of being different.
I was wondering for those who live around the world face if they experience the same type of situation?
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11 responses to “being korean”
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Expectations, pressure, comparisons. Even Indians live through that. Mainstream Indians still have arranged marriages 😅.
By the way, your skin looks fresh and radiant.-
Glad we are in the same boat and thank you!!
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Welcome 🤗
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I get it.., I’ve had my share of Keeping Up with the xyz..moments too. It’s exhausting. But embracing who you are and ditching the stress is a win!
Cheers to being your awesome self! 🙌🤩🌟🌸-
Yesss my sentiments exactly! And yes it is exhausting
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You look beautiful 🤩
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Aw thank you so much
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I remember going to both cantonese, malaysian, korean, and greek churches in my city and experiencing social rejection because of my disability. I can understand the high suicide rate in Korea.
Even if you have a lot of humility, it still doesn’t get rid of the judgement of others. I’m sorry for what you had to go through.-
And I’m sorry for what you had to go though…people can be so cruel.
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yeah, the comparison really sucks. it has a way of making you feel like shit. one thing’s for sure, I’m not doing that with my kids. Mike
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It really does suck and I’m glad you’re not going to do that to your children. It’s the worst feeling
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