children of the corn

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I’d like to preface, I’ve never seen the movie, but sometimes kids can be real assholes.

I’m in dire need of advice and hoping that the internet will do its thing. I’d really appreciate suggestions or recommendations.

Grant is 12 years old and a very big kid for his age. His mom is his only parent and she recently lost her job, making things even tougher at home.

Grant is on the spectrum (autism) and has ADHD. I’ve never met him myself, but Maggie told me that he already wears men’s sizes—2x or 3x in shirts and about size 40 in pants. On top of everything else, the kids at his school are incredibly diabolical. They whisper horrible things in his ears, telling him that he should unalive himself and call him the n-word and “retard”. The child is just a child and he has mental health issues as well and for them to do this to him is truly heartbreaking. He’s really trying not to react but it’s taking a toll on him. His mom has reached out to the school multiple times about the bullying but nothing has been done about this.

To make matters worse, someone at the school reported them to child welfare because Grant occasionally comes to school looking disheveled and smelly. His mom is terrified that someone is trying to have her child taken away from her because she’s been complaining to the school about her son’s treatment from his peers.

From what Maggie has told me, the mother is doing her best under these difficult times. Grant is neurodivergent and she lets him wash his own clothes otherwise sometimes that leads to him having meltdowns. She’s actively looking for employment but with inflation and the unemployment rate rising, she hasn’t been successful at the moment. At one point, Grant went to the Girls and Boys Club and they gave him a t-shirt, but it was so smol on him that it basically looked like a crop top. Every time he moved, the shirt would ride up and expose his stomach.

Even though I don’t know Grant or his mother, I want to help if I can. The tricky part is that his mom is very proud and doesn’t want to take charity. She won’t accept money. But Maggie said she would likely accept hand-me-downs or gently used clothes.

So I’m trying to figure out the best way to approach this. Would it be better to buy some new clothes or would thrift store items be okay? He’s only 12 so I know he’ll probably keep growing so I don’t want to overdo it in one size either.

I did think about getting them food but I don’t know what they like or if they have allergies. The most his mom will accept from Maggie right now are things like cup noodles that Maggie says she had “extra.”

So I guess I’m asking… what are some thoughtful things I could give this small fam that wouldn’t embarrass his mom or make her feel like it’s charity? And where is the best place to get these items?


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6 responses to “children of the corn”

  1. Hazel Avatar

    I think clothes from thrift stores will do best, in my opinion. And just try some food. If she accepts, I think you can add it later on. Thanks for being so kind, Rojie. Prayers for Grant and his mom.

    1. justrojie Avatar

      thanks for your input, Hazel!

  2. CJ Antichow Avatar
    CJ Antichow

    I’m not sure about the food, that’s a bit more tricky especially if mom is very proud and won’t take donations but you could just have Maggie give them a bag of groceries and say that like you were going on vacation and needed to clean out stuff that needed to get eaten? As for clothes, again maybe a little white lie? Just get some together and say that a friend was cleaning out a closet and had them ready to give away and they just happen to fit him. Idk if this helps Rojie…it is tricky.

    1. justrojie Avatar

      thanks CJ, those are great ideas!!

  3. Jesse Pallante Avatar

    I think that would be nice of you to buy some clothes for the child, maybe thrift shop the clothes. I think it would be all right. As far as those children messing with him. I think the mother has to get involved and talk to the teacher and tell him/her what is going on. The teacher needs to put a stop to the bullying or else she will have to talk to the principal. There is no excuse for that kind of behavior. It is horrible. I think you can talk to the mom about what to do about talking to the teacher.

    1. justrojie Avatar

      i’ll have to hit up some shops and see what they’ve got! yeah i agree with you about the school situation

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