i was today years old…

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What is something you learned about yourself this year?

Prompt snagged from: TCMC

I’ve learned a lot about myself over the past year. Writing has helped me slow down, reflect, and connect the dots between what I feel and why I feel it. The feedback that I’ve gotten from y’all have made me pause and really think. It’s made me more self-aware, more patient, and a little bit gentler with myself. I’d like to thank everyone for reading my posts, liking my post, and leaving comments, I do take it to heart.

I’ve learned to deal with my mom better these days. She loves to cook for me. That’s her love language. Her food is incredible, but it’s a no-win situation for me. If I don’t eat her food, she gets mad; if I do eat, she tells me I’m getting fat. I can’t win, but I can reframe my thoughts and appreciate how the food slaps and that I’m saving money by eating at home.

I’ve also learned that my identity isn’t defined by external things—not my job title(s), not my achievements, not the roles I play for other people. For so long, I tied my worth to being productive, to being needed, to checking every box. But I realize that my sense of self comes from within like my values, my potential, and how I carry myself.

As cheesy as it sounds, life really is about the journey—the messy, beautiful, unpredictable parts that make me who I am. That’s why I strive to keep evolving, pushing myself past comfort zones, trying to break whatever invisible ceilings that have been placed before me. I’m still a work in process (WIP), but at least I’m learning to appreciate and enjoy the process a little bit more and not be so hyper-focused on the outcome.

What have you learned?


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49 responses to “i was today years old…”

  1. M. Avatar

    I have learned selflesness, a trait my wife exudes from her pores

    1. justrojie Avatar

      aw she sounds like really really awesome. i’m glad y’all found each other!

      1. M. Avatar

        Me too

  2. Abdurrahman Tukur Avatar

    It is reassuring to know that writing helps you slow down to look at things differently.

    1. justrojie Avatar

      thank you, Abdurrahman!

  3. Hazel Avatar

    Congratulations, Rojie! I enjoyed your writings and your honesty. Keep it up. Hugs to you. I think you have a beautiful online family here.

    1. justrojie Avatar

      thanks so much, Hazel! you’re part of my online fam too 🙂

      1. Hazel Avatar

        Happy to hear that, Rojie. My pleasure always. We’re a family!

  4. Sara Allwright Avatar

    Congrats on your 100k 🥳
    Indeed, life is about the (often) unpredictable journey! 🥂🤗

    1. justrojie Avatar

      thank you, thank you, Sara! It sure is… lots of twists and turns, that’s for sure!

      1. Sara Allwright Avatar

        Oh yes! Many twists and turns – makes life interesting, if nothing else 😅

  5. myallaboutyou Avatar

    Congratulations Rojie. Many of us never learn what you have learned. Just maybe we can catch up. 😉

    1. justrojie Avatar

      hehe thank you so much! i think that people here have helped me figure it out on the way.

  6. Prog2Goal Avatar

    100K! Well done!

    1. justrojie Avatar

      thank you so much!!

  7. ibarynt Avatar

    Congratulations 🎊, those are impressive numbers.

    The journey into the self is not an easy road but it is also worth it. As long as we are willing to always be under construction, I think we’ve won half the battle. It’s about enjoying the process too.

    I wish I could eat your mum’s food.. you know better not to listen to her, relish it while you still can 😁.

    1. justrojie Avatar

      thank you, Iba!! i think i’ve found a way to tune her out LOLOL, which also annoys her. i’m glad that people like you are here to help me with this journey. your posts have def made me reflect quite a bit

      1. ibarynt Avatar

        Thankyou Rojie. Glad to know you find something valuable in them.

  8. sambucadarling Avatar

    I know it’s not Gemini but fuck man, we have the same vibes sista! 💜💜💜💜💜💜

    https://i0.wp.com/www.astrotraits.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/12/best-sagittarius-memes.jpg?resize=480%2C492&ssl=1

    1. justrojie Avatar

      LOLOL that meme!! <3<3<3

  9. Ajinkya Rane Avatar

    very valuable lesson and congratulations on 100k views!

    1. justrojie Avatar

      Ajinkya, thank you so much!!

  10. Violet Lentz Avatar

    That no matter how old I get, there is always more to learn.

    1. justrojie Avatar

      you’re right about that, there’s always more!

  11. Info-Man Avatar

    I have learnt that life goes on . With them or without them . New people come and go , that is what life is .

    1. justrojie Avatar

      nothing is forever… even if i want it to, that’s fasho!

  12. judykariuki2014 Avatar

    Always appreciate it, while you are at it. You only live once. Enjoy every moment, good or bad.

    1. justrojie Avatar

      thank you so much!!

  13. lego hay Avatar

    I learned how to be nice to others

    1. justrojie Avatar

      awesome!!

  14. Uğurcan BAL Avatar

    Congratulations. 🙏👏👏

    1. justrojie Avatar

      thank you!!

  15. daraaladegbaye Avatar

    Congratulations Rojie🎉🎉 100 K.
    You just gave me an inspiration and more to learn

    1. justrojie Avatar

      thank you so much!! 🙂

  16. ianmdudley Avatar

    I’ve learned that on life’s journey, it’s really easy to run out of gas.

    Glad you’ve derived some growth and wisdom from being here and interacting with folks. It’s rare to find positive interactions on social media these days. So you’ve curated your follow / follower list quite well.

    Tho if you decide life is about getting THC health supplements, you need to weed your follower list more thoroughly for spam bots.

    1. justrojie Avatar

      that is also very true, about running out of gas. i’m just gonna take it one day at a time. lol i have a bad enough addiction with coffee, THC would just get in the way.

      1. ianmdudley Avatar

        I think my work days are bad, but then I read about yours. Not enough gas in the world…

  17. Nicholas K F Matte Avatar

    100k is blasting Ro!!!! I’ve learned a lot but I can’t formulate it right now lol ehm, ohhhhhhh karate rocks!!!!

    1. justrojie Avatar

      haha thank you so very much, Nico!!

  18. Jovale Senior Avatar

    Congrats with 100k 🎉🥳

    1. justrojie Avatar

      thank you, Jovale!!

  19. Dinesh Kumar Avatar

    Dear friend Justrojie,
    you’ve captured growth in its real, unpolished form, not the “new year, new me” kind, but the kind that comes from sitting with yourself and choosing to understand instead of escape. The way you reframed your mom’s love language hit deeply — sometimes healing is just learning to receive love differently. And yes, being a WIP isn’t a flaw — it’s the whole point.

  20. Edward Ortiz Avatar

    Congratulations, Rojie. I really enjoy reading your posts, and learning from you and others in the community.

    1. justrojie Avatar

      thank you, Edward!

      1. Edward Ortiz Avatar

        You’re very welcome.

  21. Jesse Pallante Avatar

    That’s quite an achievement congratulations on a 100k views. You are an awesome writer, so keep it up. I have learned that you are not fat. You look fantastic.

    1. justrojie Avatar

      thanks so much, Jesse!! you’re awesome sauce too!

  22. Jesse Pallante Avatar

    Thank you very much 😊.

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