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Currently listening to: Father Figure – Taylor Swift
“You know, you remind me of a younger me”
I saw potential
I’ll be your father figure.
Fun fact: Taylor Swift approached George Michael’s estate about incorporating an interpolation of his song, “Father Figure” into a brand new song with the same title to be featured in her new album.
It’s not a secret that I’m drawn to older men. They just know how to make a girl feel special and wanted. But don’t get me wrong, I’ve also dated younger men too, but somehow they seem to look older, if that makes any sense.
When I was seeing Craig, he was considerably older — successful, established and owned a couple of restaurants up in San Francisco, so I was constantly flying back and forth. The flights were short (90 minutes) and the tickets were inexpensive. There were many times when he’d tell me, “Just come up for the weekend,” like it was nothing and buy me roundtrip flights.
It’s funny though. Despite all the traveling and the time we spent together, we never actually slept together. What he really wanted was company — someone to talk to, to share his world with. I used to wonder if he was lonely. Maybe he just needed someone who wasn’t part of the service industry, someone who didn’t view him as an extension of his restaurants.
He always made sure I was well-fed. He’d cook, or we’d go to his restaurants and try new dishes. He was the second chef I’d ever dated, and let me tell you… dating a chef is dangerous. The food’s always on point, but after each visit, I’d have to go on a diet, intermittent fasting, cleanse, and go to the gym for longer workout sessions to prevent from gaining weight.
I tried to make it work. I even interviewed for director positions in SF just to see if moving there made sense. But the offers never lined up. The pay wasn’t worth the relocation, the role wasn’t the right fit, or they were not interested in hiring me. Eventually, the back-and-forth wore me down.
He couldn’t take holidays because his businesses always came first, and I’m someone who thrives on movement and adventure. I started feeling trapped, restless, and… bored. There’s only so many flights and gourmet dinners I can have before I realize that I want more in life.
I think he knew it was coming because he commented that I seemed to be more distant. So after six months, I ended it. He had his restaurants. I had my freedom.
And the thing about older men — they often have their lives already built. I can be a part of it for a while, but I’ll never be the center of it. Another lesson learned from Craig and Zaddy.
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