Currently listening to: Guilty as Sin – Taylor Swift
I keep these longings locked
In lowercase inside a vault
Someone told me
There’s no such thing as bad thoughts
Only your actions talk
These fatal fantasies
Giving way to labored breath
Taking all of me
We’ve already done it in my head
If it’s make believe
Why does it feel like a vow
We’ll both uphold somehow?
In my old blog (stand alone not through WP), I used to write pretty freely about my relationships—the good, the bad, and the straight-up bizarre. I treated that space like a diary, open for the world to see. But over time, I noticed a pattern: a handful of men would crawl out of the woodwork to leave nasty, unprovoked comments. And not just once, they’d circle back multiple times a day..
I couldn’t figure it out at first. Like… do they get off on this? If they hated my posts so much, why not just keep it moving? No one was holding them hostage. And yet, they kept coming back with that same tired bitterness, typing out their little essays of hate like it was their civic duty. I’d get texts from my friends like, “Did you see what that guy wrote this time?” or “Girl, you need to shut down your comments.” It was exhausting. And honestly, creepy… especially the stalkers.
Eventually, I found out that some of the rude comments came from incels. Involuntarily celibate men who would blame women for their lack of romantic or sexual success. A toxic little corner of the internet where hostility toward women is worn like a badge of honor. And not just women, either, they hate sexually active men too.
That explained a lot.
This is one of the reasons why I moderate comments now. I’m not trying to censor people’s comments but I do want to set boundaries and not let bitter keyboard warriors hijack or troll my blog.
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