kiddy play date

Currently listening to: Flashing Lights – Kanye West feat. Dwele

I know it’s been a while, sweetheart
We hardly talk, I was doing my thing
I know I was foul, baby
Ay, babe lately you been all on my brain (brain)
And if somebody would’ve told me a month ago
Fronting, though, yo, I wouldn’t wanna know
If somebody would’ve told me a year ago
It’ll go, get this difficult (difficult)
Feeling like Katrina with no FEMA
Like Martin with no Gina
Like a flight with no Visa

I asked my cousin, Caroline, how she made friends after moving to Seattle. Turns out, she met a group of people through the wife of a guy I introduced her to back when we were living in Minnesota. Small world. Truthfully, after uni, it feels like the only ways I’ve managed to meet new people were through mutual friends, coworkers, or the online. It’s hard to meet people organically.

Sometimes when a friend says, “You have to meet her—she’s so fun,” I feel like I’m being set up on a kiddy playdate. It’s sweet, but also slightly awkward, like: will we genuinely get along or will we both just smile politely until it’s over?

How do you meet new people or make new friends as an adult? Is it just me or does it get weirder and harder the older we get?


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17 responses to “kiddy play date”

  1. Nicholas K F Matte Avatar

    Ya, lots of ways to meet new people, I find it easier a bit now being older because I’ve achieved some grey in my case and if I want I can talk to pretty much whomever I like

  2. Jesse Pallante Avatar

    Yes it does get harder to meet new friends, unless you have something in common with them. I went to an open mic at Solar culture and I met a lot of comedians. There not true friends, but hey we talked about their interests at least.

    1. justrojie Avatar

      That’s cool!

  3. Hazel Avatar

    I think it gets harder as we age. I stick to my old friend, and mostly, they are my relatives. It’s enough for me. But, I can make friends through nieces and cousins of my brothers-in-law.

    1. justrojie Avatar

      That’s good meeting people through fam!

  4. ibarynt Avatar

    Oh making friends in adulthood is a minefield. Most are acquaintances all because of the kids. I don’t want to put in effort either 😬. Finding things we share in common is difficult.

    1. justrojie Avatar

      In school it was much much easier and people at work, only a few I’m friendly with otherwise it’s business as usual 😂 did you have playdates for your kids?

      1. ibarynt Avatar

        Yes, a few play dates but now little girl has her own friends, I just drop her off or the friends come home, no need for parents to hang out 😀

  5. Prog2Goal Avatar

    It’s definitely harder as we get older.

    1. justrojie Avatar

      For sure!

  6. Matt Avatar

    No it’s harder

    1. justrojie Avatar

      That’s what I’m finding out these days…

  7. Info-Man Avatar

    idk cause it was always hard for me , lol Rojie I am so awkwardly social that when I want to start a Convo I ask them if they like iron man or cap 😂 and it hits hard when they say don’t watch marvel 😂
    Then I would ask their fav anime etc I have never seen anyone who would respond with the right answer . Maybe that’s why talking to real people is a mess 😂 for me .

    1. justrojie Avatar

      Samesies that’s me with kpop asking people who their bias is 😆

      1. Info-Man Avatar

        i do that too 😂

  8. Violet Lentz Avatar

    I have to agree with the majority of the comments most of my active adult relationships are aquaintences

    1. justrojie Avatar

      Agreed!!

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