gives me the ick

What makes you instantly turned off about someone?

Prompt snagged from: TCMC




There are so many, where do I start?


  • anger issues – We both can’t be angry. I used to have a short fuse when I was younger, but now I’m pretty chill… unless you really push my buttons.

  • selfishness – If it’s always about you, I’m out.

  • bad hygiene – Poor grooming, bad breath, body odor? No, thank you.

  • terrible in bed – Chemistry matters. If you’re all talk and no action, what are we even doing?

  • being insensitive – If you can’t read the room or show basic empathy, it’s an instant no.

  • not liking animals – If you don’t vibe with animals, I probably won’t vibe with you.

  • gaslighting – If I catch even a whiff of manipulation, I’m gone.

  • being a reckless or bad driver – If I have to fear for my life every time I get in the car with you, it’s not going to work.

  • obsessing over money – Talking about money all the time—whether bragging or complaining—is exhausting.

  • treating his mother like shit – How a man treats his mom is very telling.

  • being controlling – If you think you’re going to dictate how I dress, who I talk to, or what I do, you’ve lost your mind.

  • habitual lateness – Once or twice? Fine. Every single time? Disrespectful.

  • constant negative energy – If you’re always complaining, always in a bad mood, or just draining to be around, I’d rather not.

  • being lazy – Zero motivation, zero effort? Next.

  • racism – Do I even need to explain?

  • giving off “alpha male, Andrew Tate energy” – How you treat waitstaff, cashiers, and strangers says everything about you. If you think being a jerk is the same as being a leader, you’ve already lost me.

  • gambling addiction – If you’re out here blowing paychecks on poker and sports bets, I don’t have time for that kind of chaos.


Honestly, the list could go on, but these are immediate turn-offs…


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19 responses to “gives me the ick”

  1. Laura Avatar

    Bad hygiene bad hygiene bad hygiene! Ughhh!!! Nasty 🤢

    1. justrojie Avatar

      Right??

  2. Violet Lentz Avatar

    Girl, you have described 9/10 of the male population!

    1. justrojie Avatar

      🤣 well then… I guess I can see why there are lesbians 😂 I’m sure there’s gotta be someone …

  3. Michael Williams Avatar

    Andrew Tate is such a character lol. and I can totally understand with the dangerous driving – like wtf are you trying to prove??? and anger issues…yeah. Mike

    1. justrojie Avatar

      Right?!! Ugh he’s so gross too

  4. ibarynt Avatar

    Body odor 🤣

    1. justrojie Avatar

      Lololol

  5. Info-Man Avatar

    This is so true, btw bad driver 😂😂😂

    1. justrojie Avatar

      Frfr!

  6. April Avatar

    That’s a list gurrl! them being not on time hurts bad fr

  7. Gino Vaglivielo Avatar

    When a woman asks how much money I make also how much is in my 401k

    1. justrojie Avatar

      That’s so rude and inappropriate!

      1. Gino Vaglivielo Avatar

        Thank you I agree 100%. You can’t get to know someone if you’re gonna ask shallow questions.

        1. justrojie Avatar

          exactly!!

  8. Maddie Cochere Avatar

    Great list! I agree 100%.

    What about this? I was with a guy yesterday. Could potentially be more than a friend. I specifically asked him to come with me to the mall to pick out a new perfume – one he would like, too. He likes to shop; he was all in.

    I get to the good stuff, and he freaks over the prices. Just didn’t even want to look. Wanted to go somewhere else – even Bed Bath and Beyond (Ugh!) – which we did, but I didn’t buy anything. On the way out of the mall, he sees tennis shoes in a window. He likes them. I ask, “What do you think those cost?” He says, “$80.00.” My jaw drops, and I say, “You would spend $80 on tennis shoes, but you didn’t want me to spend $100 on perfume?” He says he has over 50 pairs of shoes. Shoes last; perfume doesn’t.”

    I told him today I don’t want to see him anymore. You’re the dating guru, Rojie. What say you? 🙂

    1. justrojie Avatar

      It seems a bit lopsided to me since he’s willing to drop money on shoes but he balks at what you want to purchase and it’s slightly more. I think you did the right thing. I would have done the same if we’re gonna be honest.

      1. Maddie Cochere Avatar

        Yeah. It was my money. What did he care what I spent? And I wanted him to help pick something he would like, too! I may have overreacted a bit, but the day ended up being “off,” and I just couldn’t pull the trigger on seeing what a relationship might look like. C’est la vie!

        1. justrojie Avatar

          On to the next!

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