gary update

Currently listening to: Grenade – Bruno Mars

But darling, I’d still catch a grenade for ya (yeah, yeah, yeah)Throw my hand on a blade for ya (yeah, yeah, yeah)I’d jump in front of a train for ya (yeah, yeah, yeah)You know I’d do anything for ya (yeah, yeah, yeah)

Preface: catch me if you can

This week, he scheduled three last-minute meetings with me. I know he can see my schedule and pinpoint when I might have availability—which, honestly, I find annoying. Every time, it starts the same way:

“How are you?”

And every time, my response is just as dry: “Doing what I need to do. You?”

Then we get into the real reason he called me—some clinical or technical issue. Me being me, I answer his questions succinctly, straight to the point. No fluff, no wasted time.

Once it’s all said and done, I wrap things up with, “Well, thanks for the information.”

Enter the awkward silence.

I give it a beat before I say, “I gotta go see my patient now.”

“Okay… byeee talk to you soon,” he finally says, dragging it out like he’s hesitant to let me go.

And then I walk away, shaking my head, wondering why this entire exchange felt like an unnecessary episode of déjà vu.

At this point, I’m not really sure what to do…advice?


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43 responses to “gary update”

  1. SURENDRA KUMAR DASH Avatar

    Excellent expression.

  2. Info-Man Avatar

    He has crush on you?

    1. justrojie Avatar

      Tbh idk if that’s what’s going on or if this is his norm…

      1. Info-Man Avatar

        So he has one i think 🤔, I mean you can guess , seems like he has one 😉

        1. justrojie Avatar

          ughh…maybe he’ll find someone else to bug soon.

          1. Info-Man Avatar

            Oh!

  3. April Avatar

    Okay…just on top of my head this thought arrives…

    Would you be able to ask him to note down fortnightly questions and ask at the 15th of each month? If not…only 2 meetings per week allowed..(on calendly I use for work..they allow that)
    Or just compile a FAQ booklet and drop on his head whenever you see him 😂

    1. justrojie Avatar

      I’m about to just ask for emails instead 😂

  4. Samantha Josephine Hunter Avatar

    Do you like this fella? I’d tell him right out if you do. That’s what I’d do. 🙂

    1. justrojie Avatar

      Oh God no…def not my cup of tea and I don’t get involved with people at work. That’s a recipe for disaster

  5. Violet Lentz Avatar

    I think greener pastures are in order….

    1. justrojie Avatar

      Agreed!

  6. iakovoskriegor Avatar

    I’m more socially awkward than this man. Well, he is lucky he can work in the medical field. I make women uncomfortable all the time, so I just say ‘if in doubt, don’t ask her out.’

  7. Unblocked Classroom Avatar

    Sounds like a classic case of someone finding excuses to talk to you! If he’s genuinely seeking your help, maybe set clearer boundaries. If it feels like more, trust your gut. Either way, your time is valuable!

    1. justrojie Avatar

      time is valuable! and i’m not interested. i just have to figure out a smarter way to deal with him..

  8. Mellow Fellow Avatar

    You don’t want him to do this anymore? Just don’t answer. I think culturally as a woman we are gaslit to be nice because we don’t want to be called ‘the B word’ for not responding to ‘a polite chit chat’. But we don’t have to sacrifice our comfort just to entertain others and protecting someone else’s fragility to rejection.

    And yeaah… been called a B word before, and it’s actually not as bad as it sounds.

    1. justrojie Avatar

      i would, cept he tries to make it work related and is overdoing it. but yeah, i try to avoid him as much as possible since i have to be cordial at work.

      1. Mellow Fellow Avatar

        Ugh… what an HR nightmare. I hope you are okay and this doesn’t escalate <3 <3

        1. justrojie Avatar

          Me too!!

  9. Laura Avatar

    This is gonna be a back and forth until one makes a move I think 😅

    1. justrojie Avatar

      ugh unfortunately, he’s my boss’s right hand…

  10. Michael Williams Avatar

    ugh that is super annoying. ppl like that go wayyy down in my priority of meeting list. but some just have to stay at their spot no matter what :/ Mike

    1. justrojie Avatar

      yeah…i try to make it as short as possible…

  11. ianmdudley Avatar

    Some days, I block out all the openings on my calendar in order to have time to get work done. Can you block out your calendar so you have no openings? Or does that screw up work?

    1. justrojie Avatar

      unfortunately i can’t block out my calendar…

  12. Maddie Cochere Avatar

    After reading all the comments and replies, I really don’t have anything to add. How long do these interactions last? Less than five minutes? Maybe tolerate them to keep the peace at work. If they are lasting longer, you might have to come up with something. Asking for emails is not a bad idea.

    1. justrojie Avatar

      it ranges from 10-15 minutes. on tuesday, i had a meeting with him and a director and another staff for 45 minutes. then on thursday and friday, the impromptu meetings were about 10 minutes long.

      1. Maddie Cochere Avatar

        I wish I had some advice, but you are on the right track handling the situation as you do.

        1. justrojie Avatar

          I hope so!!

    2. justrojie Avatar

      they probably last about 10-15 minutes but the last one was for nearly an hour…

  13. oneinchframes Avatar

    You should straight up ignore him. He’s being weird. I mean, if he’s got something to say, he should, right? You can clear-cut ask him what his intentions are.

    1. justrojie Avatar

      unfortunately, i do have to work with him. he has access to data that i don’t have and will need to discuss other things with him in the future…

  14. ibarynt Avatar

    Is there a way to hide your schedule? Maybe you should ask him point blank what does he want?
    He’s an energy sapper, you don’t need that around an already draining work.

    1. justrojie Avatar

      i can’t hide my schedule, everyone has access to everyone’s schedule. he comes up with random stuff that is technically in my wheelhouse to discuss but it’s like dang…i was so excited when he called out sick the week before lol

      1. ibarynt Avatar

        Ehhh, then he’s not dumb to come up with excuses. Maybe put something in his coffee so gets sick again 🤫🤣

        1. justrojie Avatar

          lol. i just avoid him at all costs in person.

          1. ibarynt Avatar

            He should get the hint.

          2. justrojie Avatar

            Some people can’t… 😆

          3. ibarynt Avatar

            I know 😔

  15. Jesse Pallante Avatar

    You definitely have your priorities straight. Keep doing what you are doing. He will come around or not. Work is important.

    1. justrojie Avatar

      thanks, Jesse!! i’m trying!

  16. Jesse Pallante Avatar

    Yes you are

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