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gatekeep

Currently listening to: Gimme More – Britney Spears

Every time they turn the lights down
Just wanna go that extra mile for you (you)
Public display of affection (ah-ah-ah)
Feels like no one else in the room (but you)

I used to share a lot more about the things that I’m doing or what I recently purchased or was gifted on my IG (instagram) but I stopped doing that for the most part.  I have interesting friends.  They see me as competition, they are nosey and ask where I went for this or that, who I was with, and what not.

I’m behind in posting on my IG stories and when I do, it’s probably from a month ago.  Sad to say, I’m more up-to-date on this blog where I’m scrutinized less.  They (my rl friends) stopped reading this blog because it lacked the sexy and offensive smut and drama that they were accustomed to on my previous blog.

Example 1: On my stories, I had a pic of my lunch.  It was basic, a breakfast sandwich with fries.  Krystiana was examining the photo and trying to figure out who I was eating with, till she saw her own tumbler in the background.  She dm’d me and told me that she spent the last five minutes trying to see who I was with because she was feeling slightly jealous till she realized it was her. SMH.

Example 2: A few months ago, I mentioned to Isabella that I wanted a Labubu.  She asked me what it was and when I explained it to her, she gave me a disapproving look as to say, “Really?  How old are you?”  And today, I saw on her stories that she bought three Labubu’s and placed them on her fireplace mantel.  I “liked” her story and made a mental note to edit what I say to her in the future.  I’m over the Labubu phase but still. She also likes to throw it in my face that I make more money than her.  Yes, but I also work more than she does and she is terrible with her money.  I send her links to jobs but she ignores them.  I tell her about high yield savings accounts but she says that she has no money because she bought her man a Louis Vuitton bag and they went on Holiday to Maui and stayed at the Four Seasons.

This is why I only have a handful of female friends. I don’t want to do this friendly rivalry or participate in this “game”.  Only person I’m competing against is myself.  I want to do more and be better than the previous year.  I like what I like.  Some people may questions my style and personal choices but does it matter if it makes me happy and I’m not hurting anyone?  Men don’t care about this sort of shit, do they?


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24 responses to “gatekeep”

  1. veerites Avatar

    Dear Rojie 
Your posts show correct 🛣️ road to knowledge of several things.
    This post too leads to wisdom. 
I admire you for this.
    My heartfelt thanks for your liking of my post on Quarrel 🥰❤️💓♥️🌿🌼💕 Veerites ( Prof Dr Rajendra Shinde, Raj)

    1. justrojie Avatar

      Thank you, Prof!!

  2. Hazel Avatar

    I even avoid posting on social media about my whereabouts. I found those social media apps toxic, especially for my mental. It’s better here, people can appreciate my simplicity and my place, where my FB followers take for granted my home place as they are used to be on the view. I love WordPress than FB, Instagram, and X. I love here. No fancy, but being real and authentic. I love this blog, rojie.

    1. justrojie Avatar

      Same!!! The vibe here is top tier! Thank you so much Hazel!!

      1. Hazel Avatar

        You’re most welcome, rojie

  3. Punk Rock Is Forever says Sambuca Avatar

    I had to google Labubu. I’m sorry, but I totally get you there. If anything, I think men don’t OUTWARDLY do shit like that, but inside…. maybe?? 😉 I haven’t even gone there with Insta. Possibly cos I hate FB or Meta? (I use Whatsapp anyways too lolol)

    1. justrojie Avatar

      😂 yes they very well could do that inside! Ugh I hate meta fr.

  4. Sara Allwright Avatar

    Yep…just be you! 😁

    1. justrojie Avatar

      Yeah!!

  5. CJ Antichow Avatar
    CJ Antichow

    Yeah you’re so absolutely right about that, the female/jealousy thing…so petty.

    1. justrojie Avatar

      Super petty!

  6. iakovoskriegor Avatar

    I used to like Gimme more before. I used to also listen to viva la vida. But the recent song I listened to was Coldplay’s ‘Paradise’, because I don’t know if I will go to a better place.

    1. justrojie Avatar

      I’ll have to check out that song!

      1. iakovoskriegor Avatar

        God bless

  7. Willie Torres Avatar

    This is exactly why I’m so tired of social media platforms like Facebook and Instagram. The people there (often family and friends) feel so fake. They care more about what you’re doing or what you have than actually supporting or encouraging you. A simple “like” seems like too much effort for them, yet they flock to posts filled with drama or scandal.

    I’ve come to love WordPress because it’s different. It’s a space where I can share what I truly enjoy and receive genuine support and encouragement. The kindness I’ve found there is unlike anything I expected or have ever received. While I’m still getting used to it, I’m deeply grateful and appreciative.

    I agree with you, social media feels more like a competition or a nosy neighbor peering into your life. People analyze everything: your meals, your activities, even your purchases. It’s truly is exhausting.
    Honestly, I’d rather focus on bettering myself as well and enjoying life with my wife and boys and not care about someone else’s approval.
    I’m with you 👍🏻👍🏻🤗🤗

    1. justrojie Avatar

      Yasssss exactly my sentiments!! It also feels like a disconnect with others too instead of bringing people closer

  8. Nicholas K F Matte Avatar

    Ya my family, ALL are not on Meta etc. I’m the only ding dong BUT I don’t mind it even though fb IS difficult. Yes, for me my God wp just rocks, it’s allowed me to substantiate my passions and show them to everyone! So ya, that’s how I feel Rojie, I liked reading your post today!
    😃

    1. justrojie Avatar

      Aww thank you so much, Nico!! I really like wp and all the wonderful people on here like you.

  9. noga noga Avatar

    😍🌹🌼🌹I love you rojie good morning roses and jasmine

    1. justrojie Avatar

      Good morning!!! 💜💜💜

  10. ibarynt Avatar

    You be you Rojie. I like this you a lot 🥰🥰🤗🤗🤗.

    1. justrojie Avatar

      Thank you!!!

  11. Joe Avatar

    Lovely post, Rojie–comparison is the thief of joy, as they say. And men do care about “this sort of shit;” it just shows up differently with us. We might not be quite as catty on average, but we can be just as self-involved and petty.

    1. justrojie Avatar

      Thanks for the info!! And yes it def is the thief of joy 🥹

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