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don’t speak

Currently listening to: No Need to Argue – The Cranberries

Sometimes, I can hear my neighbors screaming in Korean.  It makes me extremely uncomfortable.  The dad sounds almost belligerent, it’s hard to tell what language that he’s shouting in.  They seem to do this every month. I called the cops on them a couple of times already but they keep doing it for whatever reason. They should at least close their windows if they must carry on like that.  I find it uncouth and hella awkward.

I hate yelling…which is why I rarely will do that.  It’s not a conducive way to communicate.  I’m actually the opposite when people get angry with me.  When someone yells or talks loudly at me, I tend to shut down and become very quiet.

If you ask any of my friends or exes, they’ll tell you that I’ve never raised my voice at them.  Ever. The only person I’ve ever had a loud outburst towards was my brother.  He likes to provoke me…to test my limits. I can tolerate a lot but he can do some out of pocket shit that can be highly offensive and aggravating.

Example one: once my brother and I went to get coffee at Dunn Brothers. Afterward, he drove us to Bde Maka Ska, which is a large lake in Minnesota. When we got there, he said, “Get out. You need to walk around the lake, you’re getting fat.” Did I get mad? No. I got out of his car and walked for an hour before he picked me up again. During that time, I meditated and enjoyed the scenery.

Example two: in high school, he barged into my room, swiped everything off my desk, and then had the audacity to turn off the lights while I was working on my homework. Well, when that happened, my computer shut down and I hadn’t saved the three hours of homework I was working on. Everything was lost. That’s when the k-rage began to boil over and before he knew it, we were at each other’s throats, fighting WWE wrestlemania style. We were both bleeding, shirts ripped, out of breath, and hurling profanities at each other.

It’s been a long time since we’ve fought or yelled at each other. We’re just too old for that shit now. Things have been rather peaceful between us.


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18 responses to “don’t speak”

  1. iakovoskriegor Avatar

    Wow, was he an older brother? What nerve! In all the times I’ve been punched in high school, those things never happened to me. Guess when you beat him up he started respecting you.
    Even though nobody talks to me at my church, I refuse to get aggressive, because I’d rather let them do what they want to do. When I was young, I used to beat people who treated me with scorn. Now, I just accept it, as people frequently discriminate against the disabled.

    1. justrojie Avatar

      He’s actually younger than me, gonna figure. I’m so sorry about being discriminated against, people can be so ignorant

      1. iakovoskriegor Avatar

        I did try asking out every lady at a malaysian pentecostal church once. They thought I was socially clueless. I did it when I just turned 18, before I had my rounds of shock treatment when I was 22.
        Was I really so ugly…

        1. justrojie Avatar

          Maybe they just didn’t understand

  2. Samantha Josephine Hunter Avatar

    I guess I am lucky in that regard, bc my neighbors are genteel to the point of obnoxiousness. Except for one guy who makes my blood boil. He has this big ass truck and goes riproaring away in it at 5 fucking AM. Almost every day. 🙁 It’s like give it a break!! As for getting angry and yelling, as my bestie Bees would say “When Sam gets mad, Sam GETS MAD!!” I tend to hulk out. 😛 I love peaceful ppl like you Rojie. <3

    1. justrojie Avatar

      The guy with the truck sounds hella annoying! I try to stay chill for the most part 😆 my coworker said that I’m like a capybara cause nothing fazes me at work…at least for the most part

  3. Justin Avatar

    I’m sorry to hear that your neighbors are being too loud. That walk around the lake sounds really nice, actually.

    I have a twin sister and we used to fight tooth and nail about everything. Now we treat each other much better. Maturity does bring some good things lol

    1. justrojie Avatar

      Hah! It really does! Wow a twin sister! What’s that like?

      1. Justin Avatar

        It’s nice now. Not when you’re a child and have to split birthday presents 😆

        1. justrojie Avatar

          Oooh nooo 😂 glad things are good now

  4. ibarynt Avatar

    I’m currently living the sibling fights with the 2 minions in my life, so exhausting 🤣

    1. justrojie Avatar

      lol sorry about that momma hahaha hope this phase doesn’t last long for you

      1. ibarynt Avatar

        Don’t forget the girl still has her teen years ahead.. I don’t know how she’ll be then 😅

        1. justrojie Avatar

          lol hopefully they won’t antagonize each other after a couple of years

          1. ibarynt Avatar

            I hope so too. He’s protective, misses her when she isn’t home and she adores him but also loves to tease him

          2. justrojie Avatar

            That’s so cute though!

          3. ibarynt Avatar

            Their bonding is so weird😀.

          4. justrojie Avatar

            😆

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