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deja vu part three

Currently listening to: How Did it End? – Taylor Swift

Say it once again with feeling
How the death rattle breathing
Silenced as the soul was leaving
The deflation of our dreaming
Leaving me bereft and reeling
My beloved ghost and me
Sitting in a tree
D-Y-I-N-G

Several months passed and Zaddy and I were going back and forth with pleasantries.

He wrote, “Getting on a jet.  Slightly concerned.  Send love?”
I responded, “Lotsa love my dear”.

Why did I do that?  He literally texted me about the woman he loved not too long ago.  What is wrong with me?  I’m so fucking stupid.

I needed time…distance.  I deleted the text thread.  I needed to figure my shit out.  Out of sight, out of mind, right? That’s kind of how my brain works.  I’ll be honest, I will RARELY reach out to anyone first.  Ever.

I also hate asking people for help.  Growing up, my parents would tell me in Korean to “figure it out”. If I asked them for assistance, they made me feel like an utter failure and a disappointment.

I don’t want to inconvenience or impose on anyone nor do I want to appear weak or needy. I loathe asking anyone for anything.  I would much rather just fester in my self-doubt and play the indecisive vacillation game quietly and alone.

A couple of weeks later, just like clockwork the gut wrenching texts were starting all over again.  “Landed and no response from you.  We live in two different worlds.  I cannot be a part of your world and you are not ready for mine.  Your insecurities have ruined you.”


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9 responses to “deja vu part three”

  1. Nicholas K F Matte Avatar

    Holy, you write well!

    1. justrojie Avatar

      Oh thank you!

      1. Anil Kumar Avatar

        Your welcome 😁

  2. Anil Kumar Avatar

    मिथुन राशि Gemini fevorite colour Green 💚🍏 शुभ रत्न पन्ना you can carry green hanky.this is only in my believes

    1. justrojie Avatar

      green is one of my favorite colors too.

  3. Roshan Avatar

    Figuring stuff out by oneself is absolutely essential, but I think asking for help also requires a lot of courage. Your insecurities could also make and shape you into a stronger person. Nicely written post. 🙂

    1. justrojie Avatar

      thank you…i concur about having courage to ask for help…that’s something i’m working on, hopefully i’ll get there one day.

  4. Anil Kumar Avatar

    Thanks for your reply

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